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I’ve been asked out by as many gay guys as girls. Which is zero. So what I’m saying is if I could get on the scoreboard in any way, that would be nice.
-Casually Explained, 2016
He would have to be pretty darn unattractive for me to not be into him, because I love his sense of humor. - One of the few girls that is subscribed
Edit: I tried to Google what he looks like. A couple of people have done face reveals claiming to be showing his real face. If they're real, then I'm into him. I'm sorry Casually Explained. I am not Natalie Dormer.
One of the greatest youtubers out there
This reminds me of a story...
My wife and I were on our honeymoon at Universal Studios and we stopped at a bar right inside the park right when we got there so we could grab a drink. There were two middle aged guys in the bar and you could tell they had already had a few drinks, but they were good drunks (super friendly and in a great mood). Every time they took a swig one of them would look over at us and yell “take your shirt off!” which I thought was hilarious because my wife was kinda embarrassed (it wasn’t weird or creepy at all, even though that’s how it sounds. You could tell the guys were completely harmless and just goofing off) Next thing we know the bartender brings a drink over and places it in front of ME, saying it’s from that couple of guys over there. The whole time we thought they had been hollering at my wife but really they were talking to me. We ended up going over to sit right next to them at the bar and chatting for awhile while they bought us both drinks. It totally made my day though because I was super flattered and my wife couldn’t stop laughing about it as we walked out.
I may be straight, but if it were not for gay men, id have zero self esteem at all. If I got hit on by girls like I do gay dudes, id be married at this point. Maybe multiple times.
Just recalling in my life maybe 5x a girl has actually come on to me. At least 20 guys have come on to me...i think it has to do with guys being more direct
Look at this guy getting approached by people.
Hi there cutie, can I interest you in a multi level marketing scam?
What’s a person like you doing in a place like this? =)
Yeah this has never happened to me and now I feel inadequate.
As a bi dude that hasn’t been hit on by anyone...
Get out there:)
Let consider that I’ve hit on you once before. Now, go out and conquer the world with your charming and beautiful personality.
Hey there sexy ;)
Oh honey, gays have realized subtlety is not how you get a guy in bed with you.
My issue is I assume everyone I meet is straight and will get aggro if I hit on them or compliment them because I'm a dude hahaha
I can only speak from my personal experience, but whenever a gay dude hits on me (I'm straight as you've probably guessed), it's a really nice self esteem boost. It's really not much different to a woman hitting on me (especially since I'm in a relationship). In both cases I gotta respectfully decline, but I'll still ride that high for at least a day!
Obviously that goes for tasteful compliments, not for creepy shit.
Ya they DM on fb after meeting me for 5 minutes and say i want to be inside you...or at least for me
The uninvited hole pics are always a nice touch
The realest talk. My last boyfriend I literally sighed, said "fuck it" out loud and asked the dumb boy to kiss me. He was pleased but surprised. Bitch, why do you think I've been calling these lunches "dates"
It's the other way around for me, here in Australia. Women are more assertive and gay guys are more repressed because they are fearful of making the (straight) guy feel their masculinity was insulted. Also straight women make up for nearly 50% of the population where gay/bi men are like 5% to 10%
I understand that and at the same time don't. A person just confirmed you're attractive if they hit on you, like damn people even if they're gay its a goddamn compliment!
It always comes down to what I feel is the heart of most homophobia: The fear that a gay man will treat him the way he treats women.
I can definitely confirm it may be guys being more direct. I've known lesbians who still weren't sure if they counted as "together" after they had already slept together. "maybe she was just doing it as a friend" etc
It’s funny considering gays make up about 3% of the population while females make up 50%
And half of those 3% are females too
As a direct woman, it works well. Granted this has a lot to do with having little patience.
I have zero self esteem. Will it increase if a few gay guys hit on me?
Nice pecs, bro 😎😎lookin sexy today
Ooh, ooh! Me next.
Gorgeous personality! Your eyes are beautiful. You dressed wonderfully today. I'd kiss you in the back alley!
Thanks. I've... Not been workin out.
Go hang out and a gay bar and find out. Maybe get a boyfriend. See how it goes.
Maybe I'll get a blow job from him too while I'm at it, you know, just to help my self esteem
And you've gotta reciprocate, you know, just to be polite.
Well ofcourse. Not gonna be rude to a man with my niblits in his mouth am I?
Make sure you move in to his place or vice versa, just to see what the whole experience is about, and in case he asks.
I hear it’s not gay as long as you do it on international waters
And for science!
We were in a gay bar after a Cubs game and the guy on the other side of me leaned in and said, Does your husband ever switch teams? Because he’s cute.
My husband does not, but he was totally flattered.
Wanna trade? I'm gay and got hit on by girls in highschool surprisingly a lot. Dunno why since I was mostly listening to music and talking to my few friends
Girls like what they can't have :p
Nope. Girls just like gay guys. They're often cute and well dressed. Also, some girls are just into more feminine men, and that's hard to find in straight guys, so they just end up liking gay guys frequently.
Hey you guys just described me! I eventually settled for more flamboyant straight men. They're out there ladies!
Another woman who prefers more feminine men here! Glad to hear it’s worked out for you :)
I'm dating the most masculine person I've ever been with, and everyone STILL thinks he's gay. To me, he's butch as fuck.
Never gotten anything from girls or guys. starting to think there's something wrong with me.
Years ago i drank to mucho, ended on a ledge in front of the hotel drunk af. 2 guy's woke me up because i was passed out and i dropped my money for the week on the floor next to me. ( 800 euro ) and they asked me what i was doing. I was still very drunk and felt bad after the night out, i was young and i did not understand why i was this shy and could not get a girl bla bla bla. I was so emotional about it i cried in front of them. One of them hugged me and told me it will all be ok within a few years. I will never forget the 2 men helping me out that night.
And they where right, not straight but right.
This seems like a great place to share this story:
My wife and I were in Yellowstone NP hiking the my Washburn trail. We were on our way down from the watchtower and crossing the lower peak when this man in another group walking by us says, and I quote “these mountains are majestic, but not as majestic as your beard.”
I had been growing beard for the good part of a year and that compliment from that stranger was the best thing I had heard, really put a spring in my step.
Thank you random gay man (it was obvious) for that impromptu compliment and the boost to my confidence
He might've actually been complimenting your wife.
I figured someone was going to say that as I typed the word “beard”. He wouldn’t have been wrong in that context either
Bahahaha you sly dog
I will be following up on this thread to see if the shit hits the fan
Hey to be fair as a straight man i know a glorious beards when I see one, I just can't grow one myself.
Edit: typo made me look like I'm into hairy men
It's okay bud, I can't grow bears either 😭
Aww. That’s so sweet.
Love Mark Normand
Yeah, was about to ask if this wasn't from him
Agreed, I wish he was credited in the post though
He has a bunch apparitions in conan and a few other late shows, i wish he was more famous. I need a netflix special
Was gonna point this out. Im glad im not the only one that knows he exists... Lol
Kinda how I had my gay experience. I'd split up with an ex of 4 years, and was in a very dark place, my self-esteem was at an all-time low and I just felt disgusting. Went out one night and got hit on by a guy, didn't realise for like 30 mins tho. Made me feel really good about myself. Ended up going back to his and doing it. I prefer women still, but it was definitely not the worst way to end a night out, and it helped bring me back up!
Welcome to the Bi master race. Have a seat. We have cookies. But be careful, the tea is hot.
I'm going to need more details friend.
I, a hetero woman, have only been hit on by another woman a few times but it was always a super unexpected flattering surprise. I never felt unsafe or like they were going to harm me if I said no but it was always a big suprise because I struggle to think of myself as attractive to anyone.
sometimes it takes another woman to remind you you’re more beautiful than you think :)
Dont worry maam, they love you, not just your body. Peace out
So much this. I remember being asked if it bothered me when gay guys hit on me(am straight). I said"no it means I'm still attractive,it'll bother me when they stop hitting on me".
My ex wife said once that if our daughter ever came out as gay, she would disown her and i was speechless.
If she ever came out as gay then theres always a room at mine for my little buddy to stay. Her girlfriend can stay too because i know she'll be lovley
Edit: Seriously, thanks to whoever gave the gold :)
Good that she's your ex. Sounds horrible
My dad said the same thing to my mom. Then my brother came out a few Christmases ago. My dad just sent a text to my brother saying "come out to the garage and bring your favorite beer."
They talked for hours that night. And because of their continued conversations and my mom's helping hand, my dad has become a much different person.
Sometimes people might say something, but when it comes down to it, they realize that their priorities aren't really where they thought they were.
That's really heartwarming :)
I've grown up with my mildly homophobic Scottish family, and when I came out, everyone was just like, oh okay cool lol. One time on a drive back from a day out, I was resting my head in my bf's lap in the back seat, my dad saw us in the rear view mirror, smiled at my bf and carried on driving and smiling :)
A lot of the time people are "homophobic" due to their surroundings, not really their beliefs :)
The way you phrased that, I almost thought it was an intentional dad joke:
"You're coming out? Well why don't you come out to the garage and bring your favorite beer."
But in all seriousness, I'm glad he's made some changes for your bro :)
That's so sweet!
I agree what about awful thing to say about your daughter
Homophobia is a shit thing. I am glad there are people like you in the world.
but homosexuals are gay
I had a coworker whose son is in and out of jail .. knocked up 3 diffrent girls and still need her full financial support at 30 ... and she said to me with with a smile ... "At least he's not gay" ..
bitch ... my brother is gay , tunure professor with Phd of Astrophysics. happily living with his BF with no kids or student loans debt (He always got scholarship)
Sorry, but i genuinely couldnt help but laugh at that! Your brother sounds like a good dude though, glad he's happy!
My daughter only seems to be attracted to kpop stars.
I'm curious, how did you get so far into a relationship with someone: courtship, marriage & 4 children before you found out they were homophobic?
Tbh she was always fairly liberal in her beliefs when we met. After a few years she made some new friends that i really didnt like and she started sharing loads of alt-right stuff on facebook and believing everything she read on there even if i fact checked it and said it wasnt real. She slowly became more and more far right in her beliefs and started hating everyone. She became racist and homophobic to the point of going on massive rants whenever she saw a "foreigner." This isnt why we split, she ran off to another country for a few months to have an affair and divorced me when she came back and managed to win custody as her (rich) parents funded her lawyers to the point where i was financially unable to fight anymore. I still have my daughter for 3 days a week though. Facebook, social media and newpapers like the Daily Mail (or any rupert murdoch news with its scare tactics) changed her views on the world, same as my once-hippie parents. It was pretty horrible to see but im glad to be free of her.
Just to add: This isnt to bash on anyone with right leaning beliefs, everyone is entitled to their belifs. This is a case of essentially extremism.
That's atrocious, like "Brainwashing of my Dad" level shit.
The whole "fake news" and social media awareness thing is quite a big issue to me. I deleted facebook because of it. I've seen a few peoples core beliefs change because of what were either false, exaggerated or taken out of context to give them a new meaning. I hope something will be done about it but I'm a bit doubtful
It will take a lot of deprogramming and a major change in world events. Possibly like Trump being impeached and convicted?
Nixon supporters didn't stop believing in him after he quit. Trump will get impeached, pardoned, and start his own version of fox news that will ruin America for generations.
I like to think that I've had all the important converations with my wife, but chances are there are topics we've only glossed over without getting into the details. We're probably both assuming we're on the same page about things that we actually disagree about. Maybe having a child was the first time they had actually had a real conversation about this instead of making assumptions.
Maybe his ex wasn't a blatant homophobe. Maybe she never seemed uncomfortable about being around gay people because she was literally never around gay people (that she knew of). Once the possibility of someone she loved being gay became a possibility, maybe she was finally confronted and forced to lean in to her hateful proclivity.
Or maybe he also used to be more homophobic as well, but changed over time in ways that his ex didn't.
Not OP, but these all seem like possibilities. Your question does make me wonder what things will later become big disagreements in my relationship that I just can't see yet.
Good man we wish the best upon you!
I came out as gay and it was dismissed as a phase. I was 28 years old at the time. Oh, OK.
I was born and raised Christian, my family is very Christian, and I just can't understand how someone can treat people, especially their child so horribly. It makes me unbelievably sad.
I know that if I was gay my parents might not fully understand it, but they'd love me regardless.
Im glad that they would be so supportive of you :) no matter your sexuality or their religious beliefs, you will always be their child and they'll love you. And thats how it should be :)
If I ever have kids and they think that they would have to 'come out' to me, I would see that as a major failure on my part.
It should be such that either I know about it for a very long time beforehand and/or the first time I know is when they're introducing their significant other to me, regardless of gender.
Don't think of yourself like that; sometimes it's hard to bring it up, regardless of how sure you're about the person being supportive about it. Not everyone knows from a young age, sometimes, you have to come out to yourself before you can come out to other people.
And remember, you are not the only person in the world, you can be THE single best parent, and your child is going to have some insecurities because we are all humans.
In short, coming out to you doesn't mean you're a bad parent. And it doesn't have to be a traumatic deal, full of fear.
It’s not so much about you as the bringing up a topic that is important to them. Honestly though sometimes it’s not that obvious.
Yeah, "coming out" is always going to be a thing because the vast majority of people will always be straight. It's not a bad thing, it just is. It's okay if your kid has to tell you.
Whenever I talk to my kids about relationships, sex etc I always include the possibility of homosexuality in the discussion. For example I might talk to my son about "the day you get a girlfriend or boyfriend". I really hope and believe that on the day he will introduce a partner, the gender of that partner won't be an issue. So I agree, there shouldn't need to be a "coming out" part to this.
Same, mine are quite little though (8 and 4) so it surprises me how much is put into their heads already at such a young age. My 4 year old said to me ‘I love you so much I want to marry you, but girls can’t marry girls.’ I said well actually girls can marry girls, but I’m your mum so that’s why we can’t get married, but we can still love each other just the same.
It could just be that she knows me and her dad are married so that’s why she assumed boys marry girls and vice versa, but she didn’t believe me at first that same sex couples exist.
They might know that you’re accepting which is why they are coming out to you first. They are worried about how other people might react and want to come out safely as a stepping stone.
As a straight guy, I thoroughly enjoy getting hit on by gay guys. Even though there's not much I can do with it, it sure is a nice confidence booster.
I had a sociology class where getting hit on by gay guys came up in conversation. Being deep in the south there was a lot of macho posturing about how most the guys there would punch the guy out or something. I was just sitting there thinking about how it would make my whole week to be hit on by a dude
Remind me of a gay too who tried to date me. I am straight but hey, to be honest this guy is realle handsome. It was in the university, and the girls in the class were talking about him and I could hear them say "Wow he is so hot, I'd date this guy so much*. And I was like, yea, ok...
But he talked to me, and was saying that I was the most interesting and cutest guy in the class.
Like you know, this is kind of a relief, I have that insecurity with me everyday, where I barely talk to a girl. And he comes up and say, "Man, with all honesty you're far being ugly, I really wonder how you don't have a girlfriend, I would totally do you."
I replied "You know, insecurities, confidence..."
Somehow we are friends. And he knows I am not interested. But the guy is really brilliant and pretty handsome.
EDIT fixed some mistakes. Thanks guys.
If this was recent I'm going to be disappointed if you didn't discover you were gay and you two are happily married with a dog or he didn't become the best wingman ever.
What do you do with reddit Premium
Showing your supremacy
Well upon getting it you will get all the chicks man
Sorry I don't speak broke
Laugh at people who don’t have it.
My (late) mom taught me that even if you’re not interested, it’s always nice to be asked. That’s always popped back into my head over the years the few times a guy has hit on me.
I live in the south and sadly it’s not very common for gay guys to openly hit on people here, as they would run the risk of being gay-bashed by a lot of homophobic rednecks.
I’m going to tell myself that that is the reason I’ve never been hit on by a gay guy.
About 15 years ago I was in a band and we played with bands from all over the world. One night we played with this great band in Michigan and the bass player was super nice and we hung out all night.
This was the days of MySpace. We added each other and I saw he was gay. He was flirting with me all night and I was completely oblivious to it. I felt so embarrassed yet flattered afterwards.
Hmmmn, I'm pretty sure I've heard Mark Normand say these jokes before.
I mean... you can exchange currencies...
Exchange all that straight cred and come get some service in my bedroom
Yep just have to send it to one of those currency conversion camps.
Am I the only one who is annoyed that the person didn’t switch around the French fry and onion rings analogy so that it was an onion ring in a batch of fries :/
At least give Mark Normand credit. One of my favorite comedians
You can always get the currency exchanged from that shop down the back road.
I got hit on by a gay guy once, and a friend of mine was ready to punch him. I didn't get it at all. How is it not a compliment? As a straight guy, I had no interest, but it made my day.
This is probably gonna get downvoted but it's more like getting a
onion ring curly fry in your straight fries because straight fries are... straight. Both are good nonetheless.
Being bi is like finding an onion ring in your french fries and being really excited because you wanted to order onion rings too, but felt more like fries that day.
I got hit on by a cute gay guy once, massive confidence boost.
I used to go to gay bars after an unsuccessful night at a straight one and usually score with a woman there. For a while I never knew why my success rate with women was so high at those places. Then I slowly realized the reason was I was high with confidence whenever gay men hit on me. Then I would quickly go in search for the first available attractive woman I see there and approach her with my newly minted self-confidence. Sorry gay dudes for converting your currencies to score with the ladies! But I'm always gracious and polite and buy them drinks before excusing myself for the hunt.
Credit to comedian Mark Normand
My coworker was gay, he was a really nice person we hang out some times and all his friends were gay (i dont know what i did expect). 1 of them hit on me and was really direct and i was really flattered 'cause be was really handsome. I have always thought that i wasn't all that good looking and got a little more confident.
These are both Mark Normand jokes. He’s a great comedian and his comedy specials “Still Got It” & “Don’t be yourself” are available on Apple Music and Spotify!
If I don’t like onion rings does that make me homophonic ?
Nah, it just makes you weird.
It's just a shame there's no exchange available for that currency.
Being straight and being hit on by a gay guy is like having a dream about being a billionaire. It’s never going to happen, I’m too ugly.
Title is in desperate need of a comma.