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The father of the bride made a speech about how he saw his daughter ‘organising’ the groom over time. Basically, instead of telling a story of their burgeoning love, it was a tale of how she began to control him over time. Was cringey. Lasted 3 years.
That's a long-ass speech. Good on you for staying until the end!
The groom spent the almost the entire wedding glued to his (female) work colleague, to the point that the bride had to drag him away for their first dance. They also kept going off somewhere together (a friend tried to follow them outside but it was too dark to locate them). You could see the obvious hurt on the bride's face throughout the day.
Prior to the wedding he'd taken his colleague away abroad for his stag 'do (just the two of them, despite the bride's protests), and in his wedding speech he pointed his colleague out and told her that he'd had "the best time of his life" that weekend.
They're still together at the moment but I don't see it being the happy ending that the bride was so desperate for.
This one makes me really, really sad.
If my fiance thought that a stag do meant "take a woman-away-for-a-weekend" he would no longer be my fiance. That's some grade A bs right there.
Edit: fixed my spelling because omg reddit. :)
At my brothers first wedding his fiances dad came into the room we were using to get ready and told my brother that if he wanted to leave that he would take care of all the people Inside and he wouldnt even be mad.
My brother did it anyway. Divorced 4 months later.
Was that for your brother's sake, or did the dad not like him?
No it was definatly for my bro's sake. His daughter was not all there. She was abusive and cheated on my brother in the first 2 months of the marriage. Her dad knew it was going to be all bad.
My cousin's fiance hit on every male cousin on the day of our grandfather's funeral. In doing so, she bit me on the ass so hard she left purple bruise-lined teeth marks.
On their wedding day, my cousin's mother offered to pay for literally everything if he wanted to back out. I can't think of a bigger red flag than your own parents saying "I'm willing to spend five figures for you to stay single."
The other day a coworker told me about a wedding she was just in the bridal party for - the groom and his mother were counting out how much each family gave as a cash gift and giving the bride grief because her family weren’t able to give as much as the grooms family. I feel like that’s an insanely bad way to start a marriage.
That's horrible and trashy. That poor girl.
Groom hated the bride’s family, groom’s family didn’t approve of the bride. Very awkward at a wedding! Bride makes her promises (something along the lines of “I promise to try and be worthy of your family” etc) and we all raise eyebrows at each other. Groom’s speech is all about how much he has helped his bride change for the better and how he ‘made her what she is’. Eyebrows are practically falling off the top of my head at this point. It’s been a few months so I guess we will wait and see...I just thought it was very controlling.
At a wedding, the bride marrying this handsome guy often described as the "total package". My dad, a psychologist, sitting next to me, leans over and whispers in my ear: "he's gay". Groom came out of the closet one year later, they divorced.
Tl;Dr: My dad has amazing gaydar.
My cousin's wedding: he was in the Army, his bride was 6 months pregnant, a senior in high school, and she had just turned 18 the previous day. Her grandfather was the officiant and he gave a big speech about how marriage was only between one man and one woman and no one can tear apart what God puts together. They opened their gifts in front of everyone like it was a birthday party. There was no alcohol, dancing, or food. Within 30-40 minutes after the gift opening the "happy" couple peeled out of the Boy Scout lodge, doing donuts while her teenage friends cheered them on. They spent the night at the hotel everyone was staying at - separately - which consisted of him getting shitfaced with his friends while she was alone in their room. In front of our entire family my sister said "I give them a year." She was wrong though.
Within 3 months of the kid coming they had split and my cousin swears the kid isn't his. The whole wedding was one giant fucking red flag.
I'm the keyboard player for a wedding band so I've seen all sorts of ridiculous shit at weddings that would qualify as a red flag. That said, one stands above the rest: the groom aggressively grinding on 2 of the bridesmaids (simultaneously); one of which was the bride's sister.
Older guy marrying a young Eastern European. The groom's friend said at the reception "This party is great. I hope I get invited to the one next year." The guy had been married a few times before.
Bride told me and my partner a few weeks earlier that she didnt want to go through with it. She had generic vows, husbands were beautiful. She had a sour face the whole time, it was almost funny. It ended up turning out that she was shagging my partner the last year and she left her husband for him 4 months in. I dodged a bullet.
She posted on Facebook that it was “the worst day of her life “
Weddings are hard! My husband and I talk all the time about how much we agree that the wedding was nowhere near the happiest day of our lives - but the next day was. When it was just us on day 1 of our new life together.
Groom was clearly having a good time, bride was visibly uncomfortable. When it came time for vows the Groom had a long list and read it off nicely. The bride said something along the lines of "I'm just gonna wing it- basically you're my best friend" and trailed off soon after. Thank god for the open bar.
Did the marriage last?
No it did not. They're both doing just fine now (friends with both the bride and groom) but soon after it was crystal clear things would not work. I was getting coffee at the Tim Horton's drive through maybe a month after the marriage with them and they were arguing to the point of screaming. I'd seen them argue before but never this bad. For some reason (and I still don't know why) the groom said something along the lines of "well I'm starting to second guess everything!" and the bride was so pissed she drove over a huge concrete median causing a huge scene. I love both of these people and know them pretty intimately and they're both so much better off right now.
Reading between the lines: OP banged them both and took them out for coffee the next morning.
I've posted about this before. It was my wedding. The groom stopped the entire ceremony (which was held at our place) so he could watch The Simpsons. There was no discussion about this beforehand, he just did it.
No, we are not still married. Shocking, I know.
After the ceremony, the bride (who had epilepsy) had a seizure and her family took her into a side room away from all the guests to look after her until she’d recovered. The groom didn’t bother to go and help look after his wife, he was too busy getting drunk and partying with all his mates. Even after the bride recovered enough to return to the celebrations he didn’t stay with her or comfort her and she sat there in tears for half the night.
It lasted a couple of years before they divorced due to his selfishness and alcohol problem.
I was at a wedding where something very similar happened. The bride, who had known heart problems and rather severe anxiety started having heart palpitations and trouble breathing about halfway through the reception. She collapsed in the hallway, and it was my partner who helped her to a chair and alerted her parents and staff to what was happening.
Her groom? Still in the party, taking shots with his boys. When he was told what was going on, he offered little more than a shrug and continued what he was doing.
They separated a few months later and ultimately divorced. Groom is very bitter about life in general now, bride has rarely been seen out since. Kinda sad all around.
It was a dual wedding. That’s right folks, TWO sets of my friends got married at the same time; I thought it was fucking stupid and neither marriage would last two years.
I was right.
I wasn't actually there, but a girl I went to school with posted video of her ceremony on FB. Groom was so drunk the Best Man had to hold him upright. Lots of swaying and random, incoherent babbling. Bride didn't seem particularly phased by it and had a sort of "eh, just ignore him & let's get on with it" kind of attitude. There was also an album of photos and the Groom was flipping off the camera in literally every pic he was in. I was honestly shocked that the officiant went through with the ceremony, and doubly shocked she put it out there for everyone to see.
Cue a few months worth of "I can't believe he's drunk all the time!" follow-up posts. Divorced less than a year later.
AFAIK that's grounds for annulment.
The husband slept with one of the bridesmaids a week before the wedding.
During the vows the bride laughed at the "for richer or poorer" part and wouldn't say it. Somehow they're still going strong. I sure hope he never loses his job.
A family member's wife was like that. She finally divorced him because he didn't make enough money, and three months later the big crash happened and she got laid off. His situation was wrecked for a long time, but it was nice to know she was miserable too.
I laughed at the 'sickness and health' part because of all my health issues (I'm an epileptic liver transplant recipient) my husband got a kick out of it. We're happily still together though. 😊
That sucks, but I guess an getting an epileptic liver is better than not getting one at all.
Groom was making out with a bridesmaid while his new bride proceeded to get black-out drunk and cry in the corner.
Went to a wedding for one of my older (male) cousins who has two sisters about my age. Apparently the bride talked to the oldest sister (whom the groom was very close to) and said something like "Just so you know, you're not the most important girl in his life anymore. I am."
Can't wait to see how this one plays out.
The bride and groom got in an argument post-reception and the bride ran away.
It was in a small town in the middle of nowhere but we ran around all night trying to find her lol. What an adventure.
Edit: Since so many are asking, yes we found her after a couple hours lmao. She was near the hotel just chilling outside acting like nothing happened.
Processional music was "Options" by Pedro the Lion.
"I could never divorce you Without a good reason. And though I may never have to It's good to have options.
But for now, I need you. But for now, I want you. But for now, I'll hold you".
That marriage lasted a year and a half.
The bride-to-be of my friend would not let him participate in the entire bachelor party. It wasn't even a risqué itinerary: more of just a guy's night with drinking and poker and such. So we essentially had his stag without him.
The groom refused to get dressed & wore a black T-shirt & sneakers. The bride looked incredible in her gown & he looked like he was popping to the shops for a pack of ciggies.
The best man, the groom's lifelong best friend, was gay. And I mean GAAY. All but one of the groomsmen were gay.
A few years after the wedding, the groom's father died. Within a week of the funeral, he told her it wasn't working and moved in with the best man.
Everyone did their best to act shocked.
Edit: This has blown up enough that I should elaborate.
The bride worked with a couple of my friends, and then for them when they started their own business. I knew her for years before the marriage, from before she met the groom. We never dated or considered dating, but we were part of each other's core social groups. We talked a lot.
The bride and groom met in college. They dated casually. He would always take her to family functions back home, but when they were back at school he would distance himself.
From the first time I met him, I knew he was gay. This was before I met or even heard about the best friend. He didn't react at all to her, or to other women. His eyes just didn't go where the eyes of a guy who's interested in women go.
He was fit and well groomed, and I saw more than one female flirting attempt crash and burn.
All her friends tried to warn her. We literally took turns.
My girlfriend at the time worked with a sweet little guy who performed in drag shows. We invited the bride and groom to go with us to a show and support him. The big loud downtown gay dance club had a straight night that was a hoot, and a bunch of us used to go on a regular basis. He flatly refused to go to a gay bar.
It's just sad that he wasted so much time to keep from disappointing his father, and that she wasted so much time participating in his lie.
I don't and obviously can't know how happy they were together, I hope it was bliss, but I doubt it.
Best friends wedding. 15 minutes into the reception the wife is at the main dinner table screaming at her mom, who is across the room, calling her a crack whore. She's a gem.
At the reception there is a local tradition for the groomsmen to 'steal the bride', basically they do a quick barhop and come back to continue the reception. My husband was a groomsman, and as more than an hour passed, I finally called him. He said she was having a blast and wouldn't leave. The groom had arrived back after about 30 minutes, laughed it off at first, then relief when she finally blew back in totally smashed. They made it about 2 months after that.
I wasn’t at a family members wedding, but looking at the pictures and video I pissed my mom off by saying I give it two years, tops. There were easily twice as many pics of the groom with his mother as there were of the bride and groom. And the pics were ......odd. Mom was hanging all over the groom so much and was so handsy/touchy it looked like they were a couple. They were separated about a year and a half later. The bride and groom. As far as I know the groom and his mom are still together.
As far as I know the groom and his mom are still together
DAMN!! I laughed too hard at that.
The groom was madly in love with his fiancé (as one would hope), always got the vibe she just wasn’t that... into it. During the wedding he was so nervous he stuttered. Bride rolled her eyes and looked pissed. Then later in the night after dinner and music had started, the bride got annoyed people weren’t staying in their allocates seats. They had a “wishing well” for presents. We added our anonymous gift with a card and thought that was that. One week later get an abusive call that we did not put in. This ended up getting so bad it tore down multiple friendships for the groom. Bride wanted enough money to buy a house. Turns out bride was cheating on him the whole time, with someone who was also married.
EDIT: whoa, this blew up! He ended up leaving her about two years later, when a teenager (family friend) told him about the cheating. She then was threatening to take half his business if he didn’t pay her rent for the following 3 or 6 months. All types of class.
I saw the newly married couple step out of an elevator, and he accidentally stepped on her dress. She snapped and turned around, yelling "Do that again and see what happens!
He was stonefaced and without saying anything, immediately went to the bar for a beer
The groom wouldn’t stop talking about the marriage like it was a prison sentence. He incessantly went on about how it was the end of his freedom and how he was going to be tied down to “the ball and chain” now. They were divorced in just under a year.
It’s such a strange concept. It’s like bachelor parties to celebrate the end of single life. WTF? Unless you met this lady yesterday, you haven’t been single for a while!
I was best man at my mate's wedding. The bride hit on me.
Did you tell your friend?
In my experience that didn’t work out too well. His girl hit on me and when I spoke to him he accused me of seducing her. Ended our friendship and some 3 months later she cheated on him with another of his friends.
The bride was pregnant. The groom might or might not have been the father. She also invited her lover to the wedding and got really pissed off with me because her lover was flirting with me. She had also slept with her sister's fiance two months before the wedding. At the bachelorette party she was also snorting copious amounts of cocaine. After her child was born she got divorced and hubby got custody. She went back to live with her parents because she kept getting fired and couldn't support herself. Biggest trainwreck I've ever seen personally.
Attended a wedding where the bride talked, not about her love for him or how great he is, but more about how he changed so much of his personality for her & how that made everything perfect.
I'm so glad I met this 150 lbs of clay. I was able to mold him into the exact form I wanted then fire him in a kiln and marry him
...marriage is the kiln.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding and right after the ceremony the bride told me this wasn’t actually a wedding because the groom couldn’t get married as he was still married to someone else. She was 3 months pregnant and was throwing a fake wedding to please her religious family and collect money/gifts. So that was cool. They “divorced” within a year.
Holy shit this should be a movie.... I would watch it opening day
Except in the movie the entirre thing would be one problem after another and then towards the end the secret would come out and ruin everything and they would go their seperate ways then realize they had fallen in love and get married for real.
Years ago I attended a wedding and reception of a friend and neighbor. At the reception the bride started crying. Not happy tears either, long, heart felt sobs. Ten months later she had a baby and the next month he beat her up so bad she passed out on the front lawn. Her ex who was a big, big guy and father of her first two children came over their house and dragged the new husband out by his hair and beat his ass on the front lawn. New hubby left town and she divorced him right after that. Then we found out his first wife divorced him for beating her up too.
Wow, you know it's bad when her ex comes back to whoop some ass! Glad she got away from him!
If anyone ever hit my ex I’d beat the fucking shit out of them that’s my kid’s Mother
Wow that poor woman. Amazing job by the ex husband though. You hear so many awful ex stories but this one was great. Just wish it didn’t have to be under these circumstances. I hope she’s doing okay now.
Edit: Oh boy, the “violence is never the answer” folks have taken issue with my comment. For any future comments I want to say I don’t condone violence in general, it’s usually never the answer, unless of course extreme cases like war or you’re being attacked and need to defend yourself. When I wrote “Amazing job” about the ex husband it was meant as “Good for him standing up for his ex.” Usually you see the opposite behavior.
I hope that clears everything up. Cheers.
Edit 2: The “violence is always the answer” people have now taken issue with my edit. Look all of you are adults so do whatever you feel is right. I’m not saying either side is right or wrong. I know it all depends on the situation and the people involved.
Can we maybe just try and be good to each other?
Some people really are better off as friends. My parents definitely didn’t vibe much as a couple but they are really good friends. My mom even bakes him cookies lol
Not that I have any experience whatsoever, but I like to imagine that laying hands on the mother of my children is a no go, no matter how I feel about her.
Story of my parents. My dad and mom never really got a long as a couple and ended up splitting when I was little. Mom got back out in the dating scene met a guy and they started going out. Some how one day him and my mom get in a argument and he slaps my mom. My dad apparently had pulled in the driveway to pick me up for the weekend and heard the arguing then my mom crying. He busts in the door grabs this guy drags him out side and beats the shit out of him and pretty much promised him if he ever touched or hurt my mom in front of me again he wouldn't just be getting a beating next time.
Mom dumped that bum and a year or so later met the amazing man that would eventually become my step dad.
At my own own wedding, when my wife threw the bride bouquet over her shoulder towards all the single ladies, one of them took a few steps back to take a run up and used the shoulders of some other girls to jump like a quarter back making the final game deciding touchdown. She literally flew over the other girls, but another girl got the bouquet before she could reach it, which didn’t stop her, she forcible snatched the flowers out of the other girls hands while in mid air, the flowers were ripped apart at that point and a lot of the girls were falling and stumbling to the ground. She emerged out of this pile of single ladies with a couple of destroyed flowers in her hand, her hair and cloth all over the place and made a lout winning shout out while looking around to find her boyfriend, which had quietly sneaked away while she was going berserk for the bouquet. It was hilarious and depressing at the same time, her boyfriend ended the relationship shortly after the wedding.
They made my cousin's girlfriend stand in the group and when the flowers flew right into her hand she screamed and threw them away, it was hilarious.
It's about 20 years later and they are still together, have 2 kids, and one of the strongest relationships I know, but they never got married.
I was a groomsman. The groom was nowhere to be found as the night was winding up. The intoxicated bride, whom I’d met maybe 3 times prior, asked me to dance. Then she said to me: “When I masturbate, I think of you.” That was the first time she ever expressed interest in me.
They had 3 kids in five years. Both caught each other cheating on the other. Divorced at the 5-year mark.
Groom was sending texts to a very uninterested bridesmaid all night. Groom was also more interested in getting wasted with his buddies than being with the bride. There were also red flags BEFORE the wedding. No surprise they were divorced in less than a year.
What other red flags before the wedding?
He had hit her on at least one occasion. I believe he cheated and then proposed in an attempt to convince her he'd be faithful going forward. They were also in different places in their lives: She had just finished her Masters and gotten a job in that field and he was an unmotivated college dropout.
Sounds like a soul mate of my very own ex, who found it necessary to inform me on our wedding night that he really wanted to bang my best friend. Oh, and this one other girl, too. But just them, and of course me. Then he passed out.
Wheeee! I could really pick 'em in those days.
The bride looked drugged up, and told me in confidence that she had broken her years-long sobriety with a bunch of Vicodin "to relax for the wedding." Sadly, she never went back to not using drugs.
At the end of the ceremony she changed into an extremely fancy going-away outfit - tight and purple and laced up down the sides. He changed into an old t-shirt and shorts that reeked of stale student-bachelor sweat and said "Oh, I didn't know we were dressing up." She gave him a look of the purest hatred and disgust. They separated six months later.
The pastor at the wedding, in front of a couple hundred people, said, "can you believe that just two months ago, (bride's name) was in my house, crying because she was so lonely and wanted to be married so badly? And now look at her two months later, getting married to a guy she met the next day!" Even her elderly grandmother laughed out loud.
Two months!? Wow
My parents got married with 3 months of them knowing each other, only difference is that now, 27 years later, they are getting a divorce
My parents knew each other 4 months before getting married and just celebrated their 35th anniversary.
So, the moral of the story is hold out for that extra month.
I hate to break it to you, but your parents are divorcing next year. We’ve established that it’s 9 years of marriage per month prior to marriage. I’m so sorry.
So let’s see. Dated my current wife for 108 months before marriage . So 108 x 9 = 972 years. Been married for 6, so I’ve got 966 more years till this whole thing falls apart.
Wish me luck
This line of thought got me curious about the longest marriage to end in divorce. Thanks to Google, I present to you the story of a 99-year-old man who divorced his 96-year-old wife after 77 years of marriage
Honestly 27 years is a good run they made a pretty decent assessment for people who barely knew each other.
For such a short comment, that was quite a rollercoaster. Like a tilt-a-whirl.
The bride did not smile, neither during the ceremony nor during the reception. She never cracked a smile.
Former groom here, I was dead pan for my entire wedding ceremony. My wife's entire family said it was a bad sign but my family and friends all jokingly asked if I my chair was uncomfortable during the ceremony. It was but I also hate ceremonies.
I hated the attention on us the whole night
When their first dance song was "I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For" by U2.
In my friends vows he was talking about her eyes which were blue and he called them green. Also they got married on the girls 18th birthday because her parents wouldnt let them get married earlier.
The groom had the ring in his pocket but forgot which one and the bride visually annoyed said "That's the kind of guy i'm marrying".
They divorced within the year.
"Can we go back to the part where we object?"
Contempt is the best predictor of failure of a relationship, if I'm not misremembering Malcolm Gladwell's Blink.
The original source was John Gottman, but yeah. There are 4 horsemen of the apocalypse in relationships and Contempt is the strongest predictor.
What are the other three?
Attended a very big, very religious wedding of a 21-year-old bride and a 22-year-old groom. They lied about where they met (it was on Tinder). During a round of truth or dare with the groom and his members of the wedding party the night before, he admitted his biggest love language is touch, but that his SO hated to express affection physically. All he wanted was to be cuddled sometimes, and she’d refuse.
He said he hoped it got better after they were married.
All the groomsmen made frantic eye contact and changed the subject.
They’re still married, as of a year later but PSA, guys: nothing “gets better” after you get married. That’s still your partner, that’s still your relationship.
Edit: religion is almost certainly not the determining factor for her preferences. And I know relationships where there is compromise can still work, but marriage does not inherently “fix” an aspect of your partner you are unhappy with, that’s all.
The groom forgot the bride's name during his toast to her and called her a similar but very different name. (Like, if her name was Brenda, he called her Brittney.) It lasted two years.
Oddly the wedding where the bride started labor during the reception is going strong ten years later. It was absolutely a shotgun wedding, her father pretty much told him either man up and marry her, or get out of her life so she could find the kid a real father. The groom was at the time a stoner who most of our family disliked (I always kinda liked him, but I wouldn't have wanted to be having a baby with him, I was certain she would be a married single mom.) and somehow between her third trimester and the birth he straightened up.
He worked for a few years, got injured and became a stay at home dad while she worked. (This is not a dig at him in the least, he's a great dad, and seems to be a great husband. Their home is always clean enough to be healthy, cluttered enough to be comfortable, and he cooks dinner six nights a week so his wife can come home and relax after work.) Plus while he was working, she was going to school for her special education certification and he never once tried to discourage her or imply that it was a stupid job to want the way her mother did.
But yeah, when your water breaks during the father daughter dance, things will be said.
My dad got drunk and made out with a bridesmaid at his reception. my parents never got divorced....
A friend was a bridesmaid in a wedding... When they said, "You may kiss the bride" the groom leaned in... When she went to kiss him he pulled away and pointed and laughed at her.
Also was flirting agressively with the maid of honor.
Divorced within a year. No one was surprised.
I worked as a county prosecutor. I did a sentencing where the guy was sent to prison for about two years. As I was walking out of the courtroom his girlfriend asked the judge to marry her to her boyfriend, who was going to prison. Judge said she needed a marriage license and there was a two day waiting period (he was basically telling her not to marry the guy). She pulls out the marriage license. The judge then says you need two witnesses. -she was alone. The dude's attorney grabbed me by the arm and enthusiastically volunteered us to be the witnesses. The wedding went through and now I have a story for Reddit.
A side note: the guy was in an orange jumpsuit and was shackled (literally shackled) during the ceremony.
TL;DR. I sentenced man to prison then served as best man in his wedding.
Edit: thank you for the gold.
Further edit: as the prosecutor I did not hand down the sentence. I handled the sentence for the state of Kansas. I was trying to keep the story short.
I guess he's committed
She'll never need to wonder where he is at night
Overly Attached Girlfriend.
But but.. are they still together??
Well, the groom hasn't gone anywhere.
This is literally one of the best stories that I have ever heard.
Bride and groom secretly marry, tell NO ONE because their relationship would cost him his job. They have a wedding 1 year later, about a month after she graduated (College, not high school). While at the reception we were playing a “counting game” which consisted of “How many groomsmen has the bride slept with?” Which was all 8 of them. The groom had slept with 3 of the bridesmaids so there was that too. Then we started the betting pool at the reception (which only played country music and served grits 3 ways with beer). I won the bet though, lasted 6 months after the ceremony. Which isn’t too surprising when the bride went home with the guitarist from the band playing at the reception instead of with the groom.
Went to a wedding of my wife's coworker. She was the sweetest person and her fiancee was a total slob. Just a cocky, out of shape, burnt out frat guy. Had told her to her face about all the girls he'd slept with and how he'd had perfect weeks where he'd slept with a different girl every night. Pretty sure this was a bad technique to try and make her stick around and think he was desirable. Then at the wedding drinks so much (remember really big guy) he passed out before anyone has left and she has to take him to their hotel room passed out and doesn't get to finish her own wedding or have a wedding night. I feel so sad for her.
The bride was 32-48 years old. She was a compulsive liar. Said she had 2-4 kids but that her ex killed them and got away with it. Married the groom within 3 months of meeting. He was 21 and a virgin. She drove a wedge between him and his extremely close family. She made him quit his waiter job because he wasn’t “allowed” to talk to women. They got married in a Waffle House parking lot.
Last I heard they were still together. He can no longer have friends so I can’t talk to him. I’m a woman so he’s double banned.
If a woman gives you a 16-year range when you ask her age, that's a red flag.
She told different people different things. The age thing was the first one that blew up.
She told him that her ex murdered two kids. She told me and a few others she could NOT and had NEVER had kids. She told multiple people she had 3, 1 was dead from that ex, one had cancer and died, and 1 was a stillborn. Or a combination of something terrifying event to happen to children.
My friend is clearly in an abusive and toxic relationship. Please remember that men can be abused too. It’s just as serious and dangerous for them as it is for women. It’s not funny or cute to be a “psycho wifey” as she calls herself.
I realized this was happening and punched out after a year. Realized she was using synthetic weed and killing herself with booze. Was content to leech of off me and her parents. There was also gaslighting, and separation from friends and family.
As painful as it was for everyone I had to figure it out by myself.
But I did!
And I broke up with her and threw her out.
Edit: if you find yourself in the situation, don’t give up! Call one of the people you’ve been isolated from away from this toxic person.
I know I’m some rando on the Internet but I am so damn proud of you!!!
Older couple 50’s. Bride never married. Groom divorced with three kids. I was their wedding photographer. The brides grandma told “oh gosh! (Brides mom) went all out on this wedding! You know we never thought (bride) would marry.” Then rolled her eyes. Bride never smiled the whole day. The groom was completely drunk. After she got drunk they made out and it was horrid.
Before I could finish their photos I found out the bride had been having an “affair” with a guy in the prison she worked at.
They got married at coachella
At the reception my grandad stood up for the toast and said 'here's to the next one'. It was his 4th marriage and no, it didn't last!
Technically the day before the wedding: my mil to be gave me some of her nice jewelry but added that she wanted some of it back when we got divorced (not if). A year and a half later as we got divorced I sent all of it back to her, which apparently surprised her.
PSA: I wish people realized how hard it is to make a marriage work through all the normal pitfalls when family members are not supportive or even downright unsupportive.
I was a groomsman at my friends wedding, the rest of the groomsmen were guys he met while stationed in the Air Force, they new his fiancé much better than I did. During the entire week leading to the wedding she would call him constantly and just strait yell as soon as he answered, then they would argue.
During the week the other groomsmen kept telling me they didn’t like her and how much of a bitch she was.
At the wedding one of the groomsmen comes up to me and says “I can’t wait to see you guys at his second wedding”.
I laughed so hard
The bride admitted in her toast that she actually wanted to date his twin brother first, then said he would make a great "first husband LOL".
She said “I do” while looking the guy she’d been in love with for a very long time straight in the eyes... Spoiler alert: it wasn’t her soon-to-be husband. Didn’t last a year.
Why.... do people do this? They must enjoy the whole subversive nature of having a secret lover, I mean literally WHY MARRY THIS PERSON IF THEY AREN'T THE ONE YOU WANT? Even if you can't marry the one you want, you can, I dunno, just NOT get married?
The bride didn't look happy to be walking down the aisle. She was smiling but it was very much a pasted on smile that I assumed was because she was nervous. Found out at the wedding that her parents had offered to pay for the big wedding or pay for a small wedding then give them the money for a down payment for a house. She wanted the wedding. Where we live the housing market is insanely competitive and this was at the peak of the housing prices right before the crash. Her parents basically offered her the ability to jump start their lives together, she turned it down for the big party with her as the center of attention.
It was over within 2 years. She didn't even seem upset about it.
I'm confused why she didn't look happy at the wedding then? Sounds like she got exactly what she wanted.
I was 15 years old, bridesmaid to my 16 year old good friend, who was 6 months pregnant about to get married to the 28 year old father. Her mother paid for a wedding of 100 people. In a historic church. Really fancy. ...anyways, when bets were already being made as to how long the wedding would last at the reception, I realized I wasn’t the only one with misgivings of the wedding. Most were betting on “less than a year”. Needless, to say, no big payout was done.
Not at a wedding, but I knew a guy who had been having problems with his girlfriend for awhile. So the best solution he could come up with? Proposing.
Just FYI, proposing/marrying someone isn’t going to magically fix the problems.
Edit: I guess to add my own story, getting married in a library just because you’re pregnant and need health good health insurance spells disaster. So a year and a half later, I’m single and much happier that way.
I worked with a guy who tried this once. Then when that didn't work, he decided they should have a baby.
They're not together anymore.
One of my exes suggested we get married. We were going through a rough patch and out friends had just got engaged. She said it might help. I accidentally laughed in her face. That was the beginning of the end. Lol
Honestly I feel like that's the proper response when someone offers you an absolute disaster of a life path.
I knew someone who did this. 10 years later, he's still giving her reasons for postponing the wedding and they are still just engaged. We all figure it's cause he knows he can't go through with it but is too chickenshit to tell her he only proposed to "fix" things.
Ten YEARS? Damn, are your friends named Nathan Detroit and Miss Adelaide?
Husband but (edit: meant hit) on me at the wedding. Tl;dr He was a douche and she was pregnant.
So, my HS best friend got pregnant from the first guy she dated upon joining the Air Force. She grew up in a super strict, and really weird household. (I spent the night many times over 4 years. They had a dress code in the house that was similar to school rules, but more restrictive. They weren’t allowed to drink anything with meals, and had to stand in the kitchen as a group after the meal and chug koolaid. And they weren’t allowed to date, ever. She lost her virginity to some guy in a shed after school and got grounded all summer) She didn’t know anything about birth control or dating around.
I moved back to our home town a few weeks before she came home to get married. She asked me to be a bridesmaid (along with her 5 sisters) and I agreed. The guy brought his parents and enough friends to fill out the party. We spent two days around her house just getting to know each other, which was pretty fun. I had been flirting with a couple of the guys, which annoyed one of the sisters. So she called me out for having a “tramp stamp” (for the record, they weren’t called that when I got mine lol) and embarrassed me. I really hate being the center of attention, so it was extra awful. And I’m sure it was obvious I was mortified.
Anyways, the wedding went on. The bride bawled the whole time, and was about 6 months pregnant at the time. So she disappeared for a little bit to clean up after the vows. The groom and I ended up chit chatting while everyone was mingling. It was the first real time I had even spoken to him. He ended up talking about my tattoo, and how sexy they were. I tried to play it off as him being polite, since I’m a people pleaser who won’t stand up for myself. Until he said something about inviting me to his hotel room later to show me his own tattoos, which were apparently located in nsfw bits. I had no idea what to say, so I laughed and said I needed to change out of my heels.
It was awful, and I felt so bad for her. But I couldn’t bring myself to say anything. Most likely, since they lived a couple states away, and had JUST gotten married with a baby on the way, I would have been the one who was blamed. So I just lived with the guilt.
She got divorced less than 3 years later, at maybe 22 years old. He cheated a lot, and she finally got fed up. But, she took a vow to be celibate afterwards. Because she had a child with him, she chose to just be single rather than confuse her child with a new spouse. I never understood her logic, but I supported her choice. It’s been 10 years, and she’s still single. I don’t feel like she’s ever really even experienced what it’s like to be with a good spouse, and I feel terrible for her.
I come from a very large Indian family, portions of which still strongly believe in "traditional marriage" (read: child brides, forced marriage, uncle/niece marriages).
There was one where the groom was clearly an abuser but she was still forced to marry him. To no ones surprise the marriage ended in a horrible, long, drawn out divorce. Her parents still haven't forgiven her for divorcing him.
In another case, a woman in the family eventually found the guy of her dreams and wanted to marry him (love marriage - and he's a good guy). However, as her older brother was unmarried, she was not allowed to marry until he did first.
So their parents forced him to marry an emotionally manipulative girl, which he clearly understood she was prior to getting married. He went thru with it anyway on the pretext that he was ok "sacrificing" his life for the sake of his sister. Within 2 years they were divorced. He eventually married again, for love, but got divorced. He is now preparing to marry for the 3rd time, again at the behest of his family because "it's not ok" for the older brother to be single while the younger sister is married.
My (Indian) family is more on the wealthy side, so we never did child marriage, and familial marriages are taboo in our area, but forced marriage is fairly common.
My mother’s cousin was murdered by his wife and her family because they wanted his money. It was officially ruled as a suicide because the police were bribed beforehand.
And another cousin of my mom was forced to marry an abusive man. She’s the only Indian woman I’ve ever met who got a divorce.
And of course, arranged marriages are forced a lot of times too. It’s like, sure you don’t protest, but you oftentimes can’t if you’re a woman because there’s the threat of violence and also you might not have the money/education to say no. It’s fucked. Most women I know (who had arranged marriages) are being cheated on by their husbands. Some of them know it and pretend it’s not happening, but a majority of them don’t even know. But since I’m a woman, I can’t tell them either or they’ll say I’m the slut for trying to break up a marriage.
Indians are messed up. I’ve been planning my escape for years so I don’t have to get an arranged marriage.
Edited to add: family marriage is taboo in my community and I don’t know anyone who’s been married to a family member. But with that said, I know so many girls and women who’ve been molested and/or sexually abused in other ways by family members. Uncles, dads, grandfathers, cousins, I’ve heard it all. Indian men really can be very disgusting. And before any Indians come in like “not all Indians,” you’re right, but it’s a big enough problem that we need to talk about it, but we’re not, so I’m not deleting my comment.
The groom spent almost all of his speech talking about his best man.
A friend of my sister. My sister organised her a bachelorette party. The groom was being quite controlling and manipulative. "If she gets my surname; she'll never leave the house again, har har har." When my sister asked her friend why ffs she was gonna marry this guy she said, "I just wanna wear my dress." They divorced after two months.
I have redneck cousins.
I went to one of their weddings. Jello shots at the altar & the groom was wearing a flannel, which he tore off to jump in my grandparent’s pool. Bride was wearing her classiest tank top & had a King Cobra in her hands for half the afterparty.
My cousin (the bride) told me that she only said yes because she couldn’t see herself getting anyone better.
About a year later and they’re still married. If they’re happy they’re happy, so I won’t judge.
Wedding videographer here. Never seen anything real crazy but their was a rather uncomfortable moment once that sticks out. We have the bride and groom read letters they wrote to each other in front of the camera. Normally these letters add a lot of good real authentic emotion to their final product. This one time a bride read the letter then when she was done she mumbled something and jusy tossed the letter on the table. When I got home and reviewed the audio she said "that was fucking stupid". The groom clearly poured his heart out in the letter. Felt bad for the guy but i obviously left that last part out in the edit
The wedding is happening tomorrow. They have known eahcother for 4 months. He speaks almost zero English and is in The country illegally. She is pregnant with his baby. This is her third time literally in this exact situation.
I'm going for the drama. Mostly.
UPDATE: What a shitshow that was. I feel a bad spilling the juice on this, but here is what happened.. So her parents didn't come - her mom allegedly told her she's a fool and I guess they're done with this. All the guests, including myself, seemed like random invites to fill seats. She put the wedding together herself and it was falling apart everywhere. The limo driver hadn't been paid I guess.. the room for the party afterwards wasn't ready and she invited more people than the host could allow, and people were being turned away / encouraged to leave early. The groom read a speech written by the bride in very very broken and incoherent English. We didn't know what he was saying. He didn't know what he was saying. She was visibly annoyed with everyone and with the groom nearly the whole time. The lady officiating the wedding seemed the most stable one there, and deserves an award for keeping her shit together.
This is her third time literally in this exact situation.
I hate reruns, but this sounds entertaining.
During the vows, bride laughs at "I promise to respect you." ...made it 6 months.
A very (at the time) christian bride told me that their relationship was toxic but they wanted to have sex. They were saving themselves for marriage.
Flash forward several years. I’m friends with the groom. They’d gotten divorced. He was now married to another woman who was devoutly christian. He no longer believed. He told me that she basically just put up with his disbelief, prayed for him all the time and she wanted to have kids and he didn’t. They’re also now divorced.
I went to a beautiful wedding a few summers ago. It was a quiet backyard wedding, in a beautiful woodsy neighborhood. The couple had been happily dating for 8 years and were about to buy a house. The only thing that seemed kinda off was the fact that the groom cried tears of joy, but the bride didn't. She spent the entirety of the reception dancing by herself or talking to family, not really paying her new husband much attention. But hey, it's a busy day, so nobody really thought much of it. Two years later, she cheated on him with a guy she had just met, filed for divorce, and moved in with the new guy immediately. The husband was devastated and still hasn't moved on despite getting constant offers. But his wife very openly doesn't care and has since flooded her social media with cutesy updates and pictures of her new relationship. I suppose the wedding day was a glimpse into the imbalance of devotion in their relationship.
the wedding cost more than a house and the bride wouldn't fucking shut up about it.
Was a few nights before the wedding, but I know a guy who’s wife was so paranoid she wouldn’t allow him to attend his bachelor party, then none of the guys who organised it were allowed to attend the wedding.
Not really in context but a marriage everyone knew wouldn’t last. A friend of my partner went to a wedding and all was going great. Ceremony was lovely. Arrived at hotel and everyone had their meal and the speeches were going on. It came to the grooms turn. He got up and thanked everyone for coming bla bla bla. He then said he wanted to give a special thanks to two people. He named them and asked them to stand (two males) he the proceeded to thank them specially for taking care of his wife over the last two years in special ways. He then proceeded to ask everyone to raise a toast to the two men who had been having sex with his wife on numerous occasions and once (respectively of course) he then said his seat would be free for which ever one wanted her and that his night was done sitting at the top table and said this wedding has now turned into a celebration of outing the cheating bitch 😂😂😂