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It sounds to me like you're really just generally stressed out. Not being able to quit weed and video games is probably a symptom of that, since those things are actually a pretty effective way to de-stress. So if you can drop a class or work fewer hours, I'd say do that. Otherwise, maybe just try to be in bed by 10pm every night - easier said than done, I know, but getting enough sleep is super helpful. Also, try looking for alternate ways to de-stress. Maybe go play Frisbee with some friends or read a book or paint some minis. Whatever it is you find enjoyable.
Quitting a habit is hard. But it can be done.
Discipline is often a matter of persistence, and one way to get there is the Jerry Seinfeld strategy. That is, you start a thing and you cross off each day you do that thing. Like, "do not smoke weed". The only rule: don't break the chain. Each day you abstain from smoking you get to cross off. And you keep that up.
So, that gives you leverage against your own argument. No matter how you try to rationalise smoking, it would always result in breaking the chain. And the ultimate counter argument is always: don't break the chain. Keep adding days you didn't smoke.
There are countless of apps you can install that help you monitor how many days you didn't smoke, and how much you saved. You could try installing those may help.
You could also use positive incentives for yourself. Like, if you can keep it up for 365 days, you're allowed to treat yourself to something nice. Like a trip, or a videogame.
Then there's all the other stuff in your life. Uprooting your life and changing everything at once? That's a guaranteed recipe for failure. You can't do a 180 on yourself just like that. Your brain can't hack that and you will relapse.
Instead, introduce small changes. Give yourself time to adjust, and then move on to the next change.
Like, start with getting to bed on time. Like, get in around 11PM instead of 1AM. Do that consistently for 2 months, and you'll notice that your body will slowly adjust. Again, apply the Seinfeld strategy here. Give yourself time to adjust. Those two extra hours of sleep every night combined with not smoking will already make a significant change in how you feel.
Another small change you could slowly try to introduce is get 30 minutes of exercise every day. You don't have to run marathons or go to the gym and break a huge sweat. Just start out going for a walk in the neighbourhood. You, some music and your walking boots. Don't stop, don't smoke, don't whatever. Just you, the Great Outdoors and walking.
Finally, here's the harsh bit:
You're in college. You're in your last year. And you risk failing badly. Thing is, you're also legally an adult. Society sees you now as a person who is responsible for the consequences of their own actions. It pretty much means that the training wheels provided by your parents have come off. You mess up, you pay the price. If you don't get a degree because you messed up doing drugs, society will expect you to own up to that and fix what happened. Sure, there are people and service out there that provide assistance, but ultimately, it really comes to you and you alone to take ownership over your life. Nobody will do that for you anymore.
I know that sounds harsh, but that's because real life IS harsh. Video games, weed, Netflix, social media, etc. are diversions. Sure, it's great to relax gaming for an hour or two. But if you overuse them, you're basically throwing away time that won't come back. You only get one life to live. You don't want to wake up age 40, and realise you've spend a good portion of your life mindlessly consuming instead of investing in self-improvement and personal growth. The only way forward is actually doing the work, choosing the pain and the discomfort of hard work, and growing as you go.
Best of luck!
It is growing up different. It is extreme hypersensitivity. It is a bottomless pit of feeling you're failing, but three days later, you feel you can do anything, only to end the week where you began. It is not learning from your mistakes. It is distrusting people because you have been hurt enough. It is moments of knowing your pain is self inflicted, followed by blaming the world. It is wanting to listen, but you just can’t anymore because your life has been to full of people that have judged you. It is fighting to be right; so for once in your life someone will respect and hear you for a change. It is a tiring life of endless games with people, in order to seek stimulus. It is a hyper focus, so intense about what bothers you, that you can’t pay attention to anything else, for very long. It is a never-ending routine of forgetting things. It is a boredom and lack of contentment that keeps you running into the arms of anyone that has enough patience to stick around. It wears you out. It wears everyone out. It makes you question God’s plan. You misinterpret everything, and you allow your creative mind to fill the gaps with the same old chains that bind you. It narrows your vision of who you let into your life. It is speaking and acting without thinking. It is disconnecting from the ones you love because your mind has taken you back to what you can’t let go of. It is risk taking, thrill seeking and moodiness that never ends. You hang your hope on “signs” and abandon reason for remedy. It is devotion to the gifts and talents you have been given, that provide temporary relief. It is the latching onto the acceptance of others---like a scared child abandoned on a sidewalk. It is a drive that has no end, and without “focus” it takes you nowhere. It is the deepest anger when someone you love hurts you, and the greatest love when they don't. It is beauty when it has purpose. It is agony when it doesn’t. It is called Attention Deficit Disorder.